Addiction Therapy
When relief keeps pulling you away from yourself.
You miss feeling in charge of your own choices. What began as a way to unwind, escape, or feel something has started taking more than it gives. Maybe you’re hiding how much, bargaining with yourself, or wondering why wanting to stop hasn’t been enough. You don’t have to have it all figured out to begin finding your way back to yourself.
You’re tired of negotiating with yourself.
Does any of this feel familiar?
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You keep renegotiating your limits. You make rules, promise to cut back, or tell yourself next week will be different.
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You’re keeping it together on the outside. You meet your responsibilities while privately worrying about how much room alcohol, substances, or shopping take up in your life.
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The relief doesn’t last. Looking forward to it helps you get through the day. Afterward, you’re left with regret, secrecy, or another promise to yourself.
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You want change—and worry about losing your way to cope. It’s hard to let go of something that still offers comfort, even when it comes at a cost.
You don’t have to feel certain or ready to stop before reaching out. We can begin with what this pattern does for you, what it’s costing you, and what you want more room for in your life.
Understanding the pattern. Creating room for choice.
I am a trauma-informed therapist and addiction specialist with 17 years of experience. Together, we’ll explore the role these behaviors play in your life, the situations that intensify urges, and the emotional and relational patterns that make change difficult.
My approach integrates attachment theory, emotional regulation, and behavioral strategies. Our work may include managing urges, responding differently to distress, strengthening impulse control, and building routines that support your goals. We’ll make room for honest reflection and accountability as you practice trusting yourself again.
When addiction enters the relationship.
You may love each other and still feel caught between hope, suspicion, disappointment, and defensiveness. One partner may be watching for signs that something is wrong while the other feels scrutinized or ashamed. Promises alone may no longer feel reassuring.
In couples therapy, we can address how addictive patterns affect your connection, clarify boundaries, and work toward repair through consistent actions. When ADHD is also part of the picture, we’ll consider how impulsivity, emotional reactivity, and difficulty following through influence the cycle between you.
Find your bearings, one choice at a time.
You don’t need a perfect explanation or certainty about what comes next. You can start with what you’re noticing, what you’re tired of carrying, and what you want to feel different. Reach out for a free 15-minute consultation to explore working together.
Online therapy for individuals and couples throughout California.